Moving Forward

By HappySkinnyGirl

I’ve slowed down posting a bit because I was too stressed out. It has been one step forward and two steps back. All along I’ve been too obsess with my weight. If I don’t lose any pounds over two weeks I feel bad. One of the 9 tips I wrote for lose weight successfully was graphing the progress. The main point is to see the big picture and not to worry so much about the small gain. But right now the big picture doesn’t look good, so I need to adjust it.

I found a better graph that will urge me to take actions now and I don’t have to wait for weeks or months to know where I’m heading. I’m getting direct input of how I’m doing now base on a 5 day average. The graph has 2 lines, one for the daily weigh in and one for the 5 days average. You can downloaded it from Jeremy’s blog. It’s a spreadsheet.

In term of habits, I take a lot of actions but never think of it as changing the attitude. One of the difficult thing to do is to love myself even though I’m fat. Have you ever read an article where they suggest that you should send lovely thought to yourself, telling yourself that you’re gorgeous or hunky? Come on, being overly positive won’t help me lose weight! One thing I agree with, is that the voice inside you can help you or prevent you from losing weight. By asking the right question your brain will align with your desire to determine your actions and the outcome.

If you look into a mirror telling yourself you’re fat and ugly. How can you have any energy left to deal with the weight loss? You end up feeling bad and your brain will suggest to eat something so you’ll feel better. If you tell yourself for example, “I look good/OK, but I know I can look better. How can I improve it?” Your brain will suggest something else, taking actions rather than eating more food.

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7 Comments on Moving Forward

  1. Roy Hewitt
    July 6, 2008 at 2:53 am (10 years ago)


    Dear Healthygirl,

    I enjoyed learning from your writings.

    Please visit my website and comment and would you pass it to a few of your friends. Thank you. Roy Hewitt


  2. Miguel Wickert
    July 11, 2008 at 5:47 am (10 years ago)

    Hey Healthygirl, I agree, it take more positive confession. Many people are surprised when I explain how much attitude and confidence can make a huge difference.

    I know this to be true because I’ve seen much change in my life having addressed those areas, as well as others.

  3. Marie
    July 12, 2008 at 3:04 am (10 years ago)

    Healthygirl, this post is so timely for me.

    I was a normal size my whole life. I never had problems finding clothes, I was comfortable in my body. Then I gained almost 100 pounds after my husband died, from a variety of causes, mostly related to inactivity. I had always been a walker and I stopped that.

    But that was over ten years ago now. I feel SOOOO bad about myself. I think I am a disgusting gross pig and I am mortified by the way I look. I never thought I was a raving beauty before, but at least I was thin. lol

    However in the past week alone, I have had a half a dozen people tell me how lovely I am, despite the weight. None of these people know each other so it wasn’t a conspiricy. lol

    This is something my therapist has been telling me all along too. She actually gave me a book called “My Beautiful Broken Shell” about how we can all be beautiful despite not being perfect.

    And I can see from your picture, you ARE beautiful.

    I know losing weight is important to us for our health, but you are so right, beating ourselves up along the way is not going to help.

    Hang in there sweetie!!


  4. HappySkinnyGirl
    July 17, 2008 at 2:33 am (10 years ago)

    Marie, thanks for the pep talk. I never thought I would gain so much insight by writing a blog!:) I’ll take a look at the book, always good for the soul. I know it depends on our attitude. A happy person is more attractive and lovely than a grumpy person.

  5. Shelley
    July 26, 2008 at 7:18 am (10 years ago)

    Healthygirl Wow I just wrote about this exact thing the other day. And there are SO many people like us out there! People need to hear us express these things because they are feeling the same way and think they are alone! Here were my thoughts on “loving yourself”.

    Jessica while you are there will you take a moment to add your blog to the Be Naturally Well community? My readers really need to hear what you are saying.

    Many Blessings,

  6. Coop
    July 30, 2008 at 10:28 am (10 years ago)

    Hi Healthygirl,
    You like many others are in a “tricky” situation. I was just talking to a client of mine this morning…Are you fat because you feel bad about yourself? Or do you feel bad about yourself, and therefore you are fat?

    I try to get my clients to stick to a program with little, daily steps. These steps may seem too simple, but if practiced day after day…they will add up and produce beneficial results such as fat loss, etc.

    I encourage you and your readers to dig deep. Do this for you, and no one else. Be selfish. Commit to those little steps like exercising each day, drinking more water, etc…and your body will respond kindly.

    I know that some may say “easier said than done”. Honestly, your body doesn’t care about phrases and excuses…it will take care of itself, as long as you help it too.


  7. bobby
    August 14, 2008 at 5:13 pm (10 years ago)

    Well Jess,
    Getting obsessed about anything may not be the right way to go. Staying highly motivated (as your blog has shown time and again) is a healthier way.

    You are achieving outstanding results!
    You have motivated so many!
    You are educating many!
    You are openly sharing your experiences!
    You are showing intelligent approaches to loosing weight!
    And maybe most importantly…
    You are a very pretty and sexy lady.

    Look in that mirror Jess, if you see what I see here at your blog, you’ll have a big smile and feel very proud!